No topic was more exciting yet at the same time terrifying to write about. Exciting because I love all things that have to do with lust and especially sex. I have read over 300 books and am a certified sex educator. Terrifying, because I know my parents read my blog and sex + parents = hiding under my blanket. So mom, dad you might want to take a pass on reading this blog or go ahead but do so at your own risk.
Let’s look at the definitions I found when researching lust:
Okay, so lust isn’t all about the sex. Though let’s be honest it is what we all think about when we think about lust. For most of us growing up lust was a NO NO, it was the thing that led us down the path of immorality and sin. We were urged to fight it, ignore it, and for all things holy we should not act on it.
So what is it about lust that has our parents, religious institutions and society so afraid? Our elders are right lust without knowledge can be dangerous. Lust with knowledge is POWERFUL! As with all things though, lust itself isn’t bad. Look at the definition: intense longing. When you lust after something there is a big power at work. You will do and say almost anything to get that which you desire.
We all remember the first time we lusted after someone. There was almost this magical quality to how we viewed the object of our affection. All it takes is to watch a couple who is newly in love or to see someone who is about to live their dream to know that lust = power. Over time and with age you see less and less of lust. You see duty, responsibilities, and let’s be honest a lot of boring old people, who have lost their lust for life, love, and sex.
It doesn’t have to be this way. As I always say, YOU chose how you feel! Your feelings are a choice. A choice you get to make. Lust is just a feeling, lust isn’t dangerous. In fact, I would say lust is beneficial and it is why we are here in the first place. It is how we as a species have survived and thrived.
I recently watched a new couple interact with each other and the one thing that was very clear was that they were fully in the throes of lust. I admit after being married for 24 years I was a little, okay A LOT jealous. I wanted that but come on that isn’t feasible we have 3 kids, a mortgage, bills, medical issues and a variety of other obligations that can literal suck the lust right out of me, IF that is what I chose.
So I started an experiment. I decided to behave as if I was 16 again. I let my eyes linger longer on him when he entered a room. I filled my mind with erotic daydreams. I texted him as if we were young. I grabbed him in the aisles of stores (where no one could see) and kissed him passionately. I whispered sweet nothings in his ear when we were in a group of people. It is very fun to see your partner blush in a room of people and only you know why. You know what I found lust is not just for the young. When love and lust are combined magic is created. Lust is available to all of us, it is just a feeling and we get to pick our feelings a million times a day.
Personally, I really
like LOVE the feeling of lust. Lust breeds feelings of power, adventure, and bliss in me. Lust, while typically, focused on sex isn’t just useful there. Remember the definitions? Lust is also an intense longing.
What do I long for intensely?
I long for women to embrace all aspects of who they are. I long for women to drop the shame and guilt. I long for women to live a life full of passion. A life written by them and for them.
Are you living a life full of passion?
Are you creating feelings everyday that leave you breathless?
Let’s bring your SEXY PASSIONATE LUSTFUL SELF BACK!
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