If you think you are enlightened, go spend a week with your family.
How can I not gain weight during the holidays?
How can I survive my family during the holiday?
These are both great questions and ones that I keep hearing from my clients.
Here is my answer: You must lose the emotional weight.
That’s it. Lose the emotional weight and you will not gain weight during the holidays and you can not only survive the holidays but your holidays can be magnificent. The answer may sound simple but there is a lot of thought work that goes into losing that emotional weight.
What I know for sure is that the emotional weight you carry around with you weighs more than any fat you have. So addressing your belief system, the whys to why you are choosing to overeat, or why you are choosing not to exercise, are important. Deciding to feel your feelings instead of eating your feelings is how you avoid gaining the holiday 15. But this takes work, it takes getting down and dirty, asking yourself the hard questions and telling yourself the truth.
When people ask me how can I survive my family during the holidays. My first question is why would you want to? Why would you want to just survive your family? I teach my clients that at any moment no matter what they are facing they get to choose how they are going to feel. So if they are choosing how they will feel why pick survival, why not pick love, joy, peace?
With the holiday season approaching, many of us will be participating in family gatherings. While many families have wonderful times together, others don’t. Family members can drive you crazier than any other people on the planet. Because our family knows us better than most people and they know just what buttons to push in order to get our attention. I have a saying that I repeat to myself whenever I am in a situation where I am feeling triggered:
You can be right, or you can be happy.
If you want to have a better holiday experience with your family, you might want to consider that better holiday experience is completely and totally up to you, not your mother, sister, brother, dad, or husband. I know you are thinking what the blank? But it is true, you are completely responsible for how you feel. You get to choose the thoughts that are either going to make you feel good or bad. Thoughts are not defaults they are active they are choices. NO ONE controls how you feel but YOU.
I want you to try an exercise:
Think about a family member you have a problem with.
Think about your favorite memory of them. How does that feel in your body?
Think about something you don’t like about them. How does that feel in your body?
The person is the same in both places the only thing that has changed is how you are thinking about them. You get to choose what to think. So ask yourself why you would choose to think something that makes you feel bad. Keep doing this and start paying attention to how much your thinking affects your relationships.
You can be right or you can be happy. I say be happy as much as possible. Think thoughts that promote happy feelings not for someone else but for you.
I know in the past the holidays have been stressful but they don’t have to be. I can help you change your thoughts, I can give you the tools you need to help you create the relationships you want. You can lose that emotional weight.
We can’t control the family we were given. And we can’t control other people. We can control our attitude in any given situation. Go in with a positive attitude and you are more likely to come out of the situation feeling positive.
Bring your own special sparkle to your holidays!
For my clients, I want you to know that I will be sending you some how-to’s over the next couple of weeks to help you sparkle through the holiday season.
If you are not yet one of my clients, why don’t you schedule your FREE 30-minute session. There is nothing to lose and a whole lot to gain.
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