Several of you have sent me emails asking what choosing myself means, how do I implement it in my life, and how my family handles it. These are great questions and I am happy to share. In fact, being Chosen has been eye-opening.
First, let me start by saying choosing me, does not look like a day at the spa, a shopping trip, or any of the things that we would think. Those things are great but being Chosen is deeper than that, it requires soul work. It means saying no, walking to things that scare you, walking away, taking responsibility, after all you have taught people how to treat you, and truth-telling. It makes you reevaluate every relationship in your life, while paving the way for magic to show up in your life at the same time.
I am notorious for putting myself last. My unworthy meter use to be so off that I literally almost died because I didn’t want to be a bother or burden to my family. Not choosing me was part of my identity, no matter how toxic it was to me. God forbid, I tell my truth. Choosing you isn’t a one and done deal. To be Chosen, is a daily choice. It helps that when I am torn as to what I should choose, I ask myself, if my best friend was asking me this question what advice would I give her? Then I do that.
So how does being Chosen look in my world at the moment?
It changes moment by moment but I can give you three examples.
1.) My brother and sister bought their dream house last year and I have been wanting to go and visit but there is always something more important. After finding my One Magical Word for this year, I knew that there was not going to be something more important. While I was talking to my brother, I realized I really needed to go, in the past I would have waited for someone to give me permission to go, or even suggest it themselves before I would take that kind of trip. But this is a new year with a new word so I checked out airline times and realized I could go and visit for really cheap. Instead of finding all the reasons why I shouldn’t or couldn’t go, I stopped myself and just clicked “Book Now”. Within 30 minutes of having the desire, my flight was booked. This one decision has marked a turning point in my life.
2.) We are currently doing some switching around within our home so my office has been moved into another room and I really was struggling with putting it back together. I had a lot of mixed emotions and thoughts that I needed to exam but was putting it off. The same day I booked the flight I decided I needed to choose me and get my space together. I am now enjoying a beautiful office that I love even more than my last office.
3.) I am terrible about taking responsibility with my car. When I was growing up my dad always took care of our cars. I can’t remember a Sunday that my dad wasn’t washing my mom’s car, filling it up with gas, and making sure that everything was up to his high standards. My family is a little different and instead of just doing it myself, I have whined, moaned, and usually thrown a temper tantrum about it. Well, enough of that, I am Chosen, therefore I need to do what I need to do with my car. So on my way to a doctor’s appointment, I decided to get the oil changed. While they were changing the oil, they found a broken sensor one of my tires. I cannot tell you how annoyed I was, I just wanted to choose myself a little bit but now it was becoming an event. I have to admit to you that my tires have been leaking for over a year and just recently my brother had been out to visit and said those tires need to be replaced. He is my baby brother so I just smiled. As soon as my oil was changed I had to drive over to Les Schwab. I am not going to lie, I was highly annoyed. Chosing myself was getting expensive and was not really very fun but I do now have 4 new sensors and 4 new tires.
I am being taught, what is the lesson?
When I choose myself, that is just the beginning, it opens the doors for magic to appear. Let me take you back to the day I decided to fly to Colorado and deal with those pesky emotions. Since before Christmas my dishwasher has been broken and my ice maker has stopped making ice. I am one of those people who HATES washing dishes by hand, if something has to be washed by hand I am probably not going to own it. So you can imagine my annoyance when at CHRISTMAS, I was washing dishes by hand. I also tend to eat ice, like it is candy. I am terribly addicted to eating it all day everyday. Yes I know it is bad for my teeth. So having both the dishwasher and the ice maker not working at the same time really annoyed me.
This is when the magic arrived!
Once I decided, I was Chosen and did the work I had been putting off, those two things magically started working. We have no idea why but that very day the dishwasher turned itself on and the ice maker started making ice and have been ever since.
I would have considered this a fluke but it happened again with my car. Remember me telling you my brother told me my tires were crap and I needed to get new ones? Well turns out that my tires weren’t just bad they were dangerous. I was just a drive away from one or more of my tires blowing out. So choosing me, while it cost the pretty penny ended up saving myself an accident.
Now to the most asked question, how does your family handle it?
As a whole pretty well, but it hasn’t been all rainbows, butterflies, and glitter. I am renegotiating my life and that means that how I handle things will be different. Change isn’t always comfortable but I have watched as my adult daughter has chosen others over herself time and time again and I know, that this is learned behavior. So while she is now an adult, I am hoping that the same magic that made my dishwasher and ice maker work and saved me from an accident will find its way over to her and that by example she will remember that she needs to choose herself. She is teaching people how to treat her, by how she treats herself. She needs to remember she is Chosen.
Being Chosen isn’t something that happens to you, you have to do it. You have to step up and say
I Am Chosen
The universe is listening and when you choose you, that my friend is when the magic will start appearing.