MOTHERS AND FATHERS OF AMERICA I AM TALKING TO YOU!!!
Regardless of where you stand on political issues or who you vote for. Yesterday, something was broadcast that you can and should use as a teaching tool. Please, take the time do some research and have a conversation with your children. The time spent talking today, may save your child from a future abusive relationship. I keep seeing comedians talk about Donald Trump and the crying baby. It was on The View, The Late Show, Good Morning America, it is all over Facebook and people are laughing. They are joking, and talking about how funny it was when Donald Trump kicked out a baby from a town hall meeting.
AMERICA, THIS IS NOT FUNNY!!!
What Donald Trump, did yesterday is called Gaslighting, it is usually the very first indication of possible abuse in a relationship. It is also usually done so easily and so gently, that everyone around you is laughing about it but you are left shaking your head, asking what just happened.
So let’s look at what happened, a woman goes to a rally to listen to Donald Trump speak. She brings with her a child. The child starts to cry loud enough that Donald Trump takes notice and speaks directly to her. Now, if you are a mother you know the minute your baby starts to cry, in public you freak. How comforting it must have been to hear these words.
“Don’t worry about that baby. I love babies. Don’t worry about it. I love babies. I hear that baby crying, I like it. What a baby. What a beautiful baby. Don’t worry, don’t worry. The mom’s running around like—don’t worry about it, you know. It’s young and beautiful and healthy and that’s what we want.”
How comforting it must have been to hear these words. Deep breath, okay, now we are going to try to get little one settled down. Still panicked, but hey I am supported here. They love me and my baby.
“Actually, I was only kidding, you can get the baby out of here. That’s all right. Don’t worry. I, I think she really believed me that I love having a baby crying while I’m speaking. That’s OK. People don’t understand. That’s OK.”
I cannot speak for her but I can speak for me, I would have been humiliated. I was just told it was okay. He loves babies, I was doing my best. Then it isn’t okay. “ I, I think she really believed me that I love having a baby crying while I’m speaking. That’s OK. People don’t understand. That’s OK.” But, that is what he said, he said it was okay. At first glance, it isn’t a big deal, kind of funny, unless you have been the victim of abuse. Then you immediately see this as a HUGE RED FLAG! He said one thing, then another, publicly embarrasses you, everyone is laughing at you at your expense because you were stupid enough to believe that he meant what he said when he said it was okay.
I am not saying Donald Trump is an abuser, I do not know him so I cannot speak about him. But I do know Gaslighting when I see it. Why? Because I have been a victim of it. This is why I am asking you as parents to talk to your children. Notice here I said children not teenagers. The first time this type of abuse was used on me I was 12.
Parents, are your sons and daughters watching you laugh at your TV right now? This isn’t a Republican, Democrat, boy, or girl thing, this is a HUMAN thing. This seemingly one small thing is a HUGE teaching opportunity for us as parents to talk to our sons and daughters about relationships and healthy boundaries.
For a minute, I want to talk to just the women, if you like me are a Bad Ass Survivor. If you have looked evil in the face and still are able to love and are feeling triggered like me. It’s okay. It doesn’t mean you haven’t forgiven, or that you are broken, it means you have beautiful scars and sometimes they sting a little, let them sting and then go out and do something good for yourself. You have earned it.
YOU ARE A CONQUEROR,
If you need help maneuvering the road back to wholeness I can help you.